Why Not Ask?

If You Aren't Sure, Ask

Now that you are in college, you will find yourself in many new situations. Sometimes you will know just what to do. Sometimes you will be uncertain. When sex could be involved, things can get pretty confusing, particularly if alcohol or drugs are in the picture.

When there is the possibility of having sex, you may have trouble knowing what the other person wants, when to stop, or just what their body language means. You may be unsure of what you want, how far you want to go and uncertain about how to talk to him or her about it. Without realizing it, you may find yourself in a situation that is unclear at best and dangerous at worst.

When sex turns violent, no matter whether you call it sexual assault or rape, it's wrong and it's a crime. Effective communication is a crucial skill to help reduce the possibility of committing, or being the victim of sexual assault. Remember, only yes means yes. Sexual assault is always the responsibility of the person who committed it. It is never the victim's fault. Ever. No matter what they said or didn't say, wore, did, or drank.

In order to know what to do, whether to proceed, or when to stop, ASK. Ask your partner what they want, how far they are willing to go, and respect their decision. If your partner says, "No." or nothing at all, and you respect their wishes, you are on your way to becoming one terrific lover, even if nothing happened.

Have you been sexually assaulted?  Please view our Sexual Assault link for more information.

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Studying, playing and living safely at the University of Wyoming where we encourage both men and women to be responsible for preventing sexual violence on our campus.

Last Updated on 8/12/2009 11:56:02 AM